From The Good Wife Guide:
- Be happy to see him.
- Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
- Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
- Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
While we at The (real) Stepford Wives feel all the precious posts cover these nicely, it does bear repeating and reminding oneself that our husband's are leaders of our homes. They deserve respect. They have spent many hours away from us, with disagreeable people toiling away to provide us with a home, clothing, food and everything else. So yes, be thrilled he's home and treat him with the care and respect he deserves.
Listen to him, let him unload about his day, don't interrupt him to complain about your day. Or give him bad news about the washer. Emergency news, such as family illness should be shared right away, but baring that consider it his time. If he needs to grumble about work, listen, smile and give him your full attention. Show him you appreciate his efforts. When he asks about your day, don't dwell on negative things. If you must tell him about something unfortunate, such as an issue with the car or other appliance, offer to discuss it later -- when he's had time to relax.
There is nothing worse than being blindsided the moment your husband walks through the door with a laundry list of complaints or problems. Serious issues like water gushing from a pipe might require his immediate attention, little this certainly don't. Learn to prioritize. The clothes washer will still be broken after dinner, so long as water isn't filling the basement or coming through a ceiling let it go.
If you have a baby, don't thrust the child into his arms and say, "you deal with it!" Yes, we understand there are days we want to do this -- but do not. If the baby is happy then by all means, but if the baby is cranky then insulate him from that. His children should be a joy. He feels the burdens of fatherhood and certainly doesn't need it thrown into his face.
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