We are still Stepford

 

It has been, as Grandma used to say, a dog's age since we updated anything to these pages. Times are different today than they were when we began our journal. We have not met since January of this year, we had a short luncheon to discuss our plans for the year, as we do each January. We set a date to meet again in March to discuss progress and tweak our agenda. The pandemic however, had other plans, and soon we were cut off from each other. As the months stretched out, one of our most vocal members kindly suggested we begin more regular updates. This idea was instantly echoed throughout the group. This might be a good way to remind us all of our purpose as members of the Stepford Wives Association. A renewal of our base tenets to support our men and families. We are now months into this ordeal, without a clear end in sight and adjusting and readjusting our lives to meet the needs. 

Many of our men began working from home when their businesses were shuttered, children began something called, "distance learning" and we were struggling. We have learned through this experience how blessed we were to have our men and children out of the home for several hours a day so that we could cook, clean and handle everything without anyone else around. Now, we're blessed differently in that we're here for a families and better able to meet their needs. 

Our men required that we wear masks almost from the start (long before communities began requiring them) and made sure we understood how to properly use them. We are convinced this advanced directive kept us and our families safe from infection. A few of our men have also determined our children will not be returning to school for the foreseeable future. Again we feel blessed that this is a viable option for us. We do believe our girls will benefit from more time at home and we can broaden their education to include more household duties. 

Our routines have altered but our commitment to our structure remains true. We at The (real) Stepford Wives Association strongly believe this will pass and we will emerge stronger because of it. 

We are Back!

We at The (real) Stepford Wives Association have not abandoned our beliefs, and still thankfully exult the guidelines of true female submission. A humble servant to her husband and family who doesn't subvert his natural authority. What has occurred was a distinct shift in focus away from this "blog" and a renewed focus on what was always most important in our lives -- namely the Men we so willingly serve. Some of us share the view that the men in our life owns everything, including our clothing and are freely able to dictate what we wear. If certain colors or styles please them, or make us appear more attractive to the men in our lives, then we will wear it.

As masters of their castles, we strive to keep their homes neat, organized and always look to them for helpful suggestions to better service their ever evolving needs. We offer service to anyone they invite into their home with a smile and put as much effort into their comfort as we do our men. We believe in many ways we were purchased by our men for this purpose, with as much thought as they place on the vehicles they drive or the homes they allow us to live in. In most cases we came our father's home with very little, save for a trousseau and only if approved by him. Everything else came from our husband, maybe his family, and we gladly accept this. They continue to mold us into the women they most wish us to become. If they are religious we adopt their belief system. We do not impose anything from our previous life, beliefs or ideals our father's held, with us.

Publicly we might refer to our husband as "daddy" as both a show of respect, while acknowledging that we are much like children and rather incapable of handling certain situations without becoming emotionally involved. We hold that we are different from males, especially in this regard and seriously prone to flawed thinking as a result of it. Gladly our husbands do collectively control how our time is spent, what we are allowed to watch and how we behave. Some employ physical corrections, while others cleverly employ other methods, such as standing in a corner, or filling our mouths with honey and telling us to hold it, so we remember that while silence is preferred, but if we do speak, it should be said sweetly without trying to control or manipulate him in any way.

In conclusion, we at The (real) Stepford Wives Association remain respectful and cognizant that not everyone (especially our more zealous feminists sisters) may not agree with our base tenets of submission and servitude to the men in our lives. We respectfully agree to disagree, and to fill our mouths honey and remember that sweetness is preferred. We remain bound to our men and continue to serve them and we are grateful to them for allowing us to express our collective thoughts on matters of import here. Look for some new content as well as some older content updated with some fresh tips for gracious living.

Mrs Peter Lowenstein

We at The (real) Stepford Wives Association believe strongly that marriage is a wonderful institution. When we married our husbands we were no longer simply "Becki Jones" or 'Stefanie Goodhead' we became Mrs. Peter Lowenstein and Mrs Barnaby Singleton. We are proud of our husbands names and wear them proudly. Their monogram is our own. Some years ago a major department chain announced they would,refer to guests as Mr or Ms., and this was met with a public outcry.

We would argue fervently the chain was correct sales clerks do no know us personally and referring to us by our first name alone is a bit too personal. Some groups said the idea was antiquated and terribly out of date. Let us make something clear, they only reason they know our names at all is because they got them off our credit card. They didn't ask for friendship and we aren't looking for a friend either. We are there simply to shop.

We went to our husbands and asked for their thoughts on this distressing subject. Their personal approach was varied. Some insisted on giving their wives cash for daily purchases, while others took a different approach instead reordering all the cards in their name only. When paying, they sign add the obligatory "Mrs" to their name on the receipt. Occasionally this was met with opposition. Banks and card issuers didn't care much for this approach -- and it can cause problems for our husbands as well -- if the credit number is corrupted, the issuer can say that he somehow authorized an illegal purchase. It simply creates more problems than its worth.

The best way this is handled is to carry cash for mundane purchases while our husband's provide escort for larger purchases that require a card. This also assures that our husbands approve of the purchase. it's a win! No longer are we plagued by pesky sales people towing the corporate line under the guise of being "friendly".

It solidifies the fact that our name is really their name and we at The (real) Stepford Wives Association wouldn't want it any other way!