We at The (real) Stepford Wives Association believe firmly in male led relationships. Our readers often send us links to other "Stepford" communities and ask for our opinion. One we girls read recently had us laughing out loud.
When asking your man for permission to do something, you actually need to ask. Not tell him, you're going to it in a sneaky way by saying something like, 'I’m considering going out, when is a good time you’d like me to be back?”'
Some women quite wrongly believe that couching a "question" with the word 'thinking' or in this case 'considering' makes it easier or softens the blow. Make no mistake that the wife really saying this, "I'm going out". The only thing she's actually asking her man is what time does she need to be back. It's sneaky and subversive, ultimately telling her man that his control only extends to what she feels comfortable with.
How should a proper Stepford Wife handle this? First there should be no emergency trips to the grocery store because a real Stepford wife has all that organized. However, lets suggest that something is wrong with an ingredient. You open that package of chicken and it smells off.
You go to your man and apologize that the chicken you got isn't safe to cook, then you ask your man what you shouid do. He might suggest that you defrost a steak instead. Don't tell him that you're going to the store, would he like you to pick something up while you're out. Again, this isn't asking, but telling him. A good Stepford Wife should ask.
If a girlfriend calls you and asks you to an afternoon of lunch and shopping, you say to her first you'll have to ask your husband.
You begin this conversation with, 'Sir, Melanie phoned about possibly going to lunch and some shopping on Saturday at 12:30pm, would it be okay?' This leaves it up to your man. He has information about who you'll be seeing when you'll be leaving where roughly you're going.
If he likes 'Melanie' and doesn't find her a negative influence, he might reply with "yes". Then you ask the follow up questions. What time would you like me home by? What shouid I eat for lunch and how much shouid I plan on spending? And then ask if you can buy anything. It's actually ok to remind him about upcoming events (like his brother's wedding), that a good sale might be useful for some purchases. In any event, you know how much you can spend on lunch, a good idea of what to order, if you can buy anything or if you're just window shopping, and what time to return home.
if he responds with "no" thank him and telephone 'Melanie' back explaining that you can't make it.
We at the (real) Stepford Wives Association do believe in humble submission to our husbands and eschew the faux submission promoted by closeted women's libbers, under the guise of pretending to be submissive. We believe in showing and demonstrating class in an increasingly lacking world.
